'I was not arrested' says Ifeanyi Ubah

According to Vanguard, Business mogul aka Club owner, Ifeanyi Ubah denies being arrested by DSS at any time and day. He tells Vanguard that he was neither  detained or arrested by DSS.

Breaking: Ifeanyi Ubah arrested by DSS

The Department of State Services is at it again. In another episode of arrest, they have decided to shine the light on Nigerian business mogul and politician, Ifeanyi Ubah .

According to credible sources , the reason for his arrest is unknown . But Ubah , who owns Capital Oil , had previously been linked to a fraud probe involving the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation .

Senate suspends Ali Ndume

Folowing the recent on-goings in the Senate and the clearing of the names of Bukola Saraki and Dino Melaye by the Senate, over the cases of the Range Rover SUV and the Certificate scandal respectively, Senator Ndume has been susupended for 6 months. He was accused of not making 'due diligence' before filing the cases against Saraki and Melaye. He opined that the clampdown of the Senate on the Customs Boss was a revenge mission by Saraki because the former refused to clear a Range Rover SUV the latter bought for over 200 million, accusing the latter of not paying the required custom duties and using fake documents while Dino Melaye was accused on not graduating  from Ahmadu Bello University.

Senator Ndume as at the time of filing this report is yet to respond to his suspension.

More on the Paris Club Refund

More cash believed to be part of the London-Paris Club loan refund has been found by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC).
The US$86,546,526.65 was remitted into the account of the Nigerian Governors Forum (NGF).
The account is said to have been depleted to about $17million as at the time the probe started.
The EFCC is probing how the cash got into the account, who remitted it and for what purpose.
“The cash was paid into the forum’s domiciliary account in GTB tagged: 0023577047 with sort code 058083215,” the source said, adding that the payment followed a November 21, 2016, memo on the remittance into the NGF’s account which was titled “Consultants fee.”
The cash was described as consultancy and legal fees as the case with the N19 billion which was allegedly diverted from the refund.
“This development has justified the earlier peg of our investigation that the part of the London-Paris Club loan refunds was paid into two accounts of the NGF,” the source said, pleading not to be named because he has no authority to talk to the media.

“Operatives are tracking how the $86.5m was used and for what purpose. We want to know whether the affected financial and legal consultants exist or not.”
The Nation had exclusively reported that the Presidency was uncomfortable with how some governors managed the refund.
The Federal Government released N522.74 billion to 35 states as a refund of over-deductions on London-Paris Club loans.
President Muhammadu Buhari directed the release of the refund to enable states to pay salaries and pensions.
But more than N19billion of the refund has been enmeshed in controversy over payment of consultancy fees. Some consultants were yet to be paid as at press time.

Some of the infractions noticeable in the management of the first tranche of the London-Paris Club loan refund are:
computation of state records done at a private home in Maitama, Abuja; accounts initially opened in the names of two lead consultants, but the details of who to be paid were later changed; N19b remitted into two NGF accounts; commission to consultants cut from 10% to 2% but 5% was on paper as paid; the CBN paid directly to each state without the knowledge of the Accountant-General of the Federation; and part of the N19b commission was traced to a governor’s account and some individuals, including some members of the National Assembly.
It was also discovered that besides the central consultants, governors hired other consultants, with some conceding about 10-20% commission to them.
In some states, governors served as consultants through proxies.
Some consultants are yet to be paid because the NGF changed the commission formula as soon as the first tranche was remitted, The Nation learnt.
Besides, some governors deviated from using 25 percent to 50 percent for payment of outstanding salaries and pension as agreed with President Buhari.

Source: The Nation

My God Is Bigger Than Yours

Stephanie Otobo, the Nigerian Canada-based singer and stripper who accused the General Overseer of the Omega Fire Ministries, Apostle Johnson Suleiman of having extra-marital affairs with her and others has, in a latest video, boasted that her God is greater than that of Apostle Suleman’s and that hers equally has more connections than his.
She added that Apostle Suleiman, upon all that has happened, chose to hide the truth from people instead of making it public.

Face-off between the Legislature and Executive

The Senate seems to be in a face-off with the executive. The decision was to protest its displeasure with the continued retention of Mr. Ibrahim Magu as Acting Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, despite his failure to get Senate confirmation.
The Senate’s action received mixed reactions from lawyers, ranging from support to disagreement on the point that the President’s seeming reluctance on Magu should not make the Senate abandon its constitutional duty.

The Senate had penultimate Wednesday refused to confirm Magu after screening the acting chairman of the anti-graft agency. The Senate rejection nonetheless, Magu has continued to act in that office, a development that drew the ire of the Senate, yesterday. It then resolved to stand down confirmation hearing of the 27 REC nominees.
The Senate is also not happy with the Presidency over comments by the Chairman, Presidential Advisory Committee against Corruption, Professor Itse Sagay, who was alleged to have described the exercise of the Senate in screening nominees of the Executive as mere confirmation.

Before plenary, yesterday, the Senate had met in a closed-door session where the Senate position was rehearsed. The tone of yesterday’s action at plenary was set by Senator Peter Nwaoboshi (PDP, Delta North), who pleaded that for the nation’s democracy to be protected, the Senate should step down confirmation process of the RECs since some of them are acting, alleging that President Buhari’s appointees were disrespecting the Senate. He also condemned comments by Professor Sagay that the Senate’s role in appointments was “merely” to confirm.
He said: “Recently in this Senate, we have dealt with the issue of confirmation and where are we today? The chairman of the Presidential Committee on Anti-Corruption, Professor Itse Sagay went to the press and said the Senate merely confirms.
“Today, we have now been given a list to confirm. Look at the list, we have eight of them here out of 27, eight of them are for re-appointment which means they are acting already, they are already working and they are still in position.
“My position on this matter is that since our confirmation is ‘merely’, let us suspend it until we now know whether we have the power as given to us by the constitution to look into confirmation matters or any other status,” he submitted.

Deputy Senate President, Ike Ekweremadu urged his colleagues to allow suspension of the request for only two weeks rather than indefinite suspension to enable the Senate President meet with President Buhari to communicate the sentiments of the Senate concerning Magu.

During the two-week suspension, Senate President Bukola Saraki is expected to meet with the President to resolve the issue of Magu, who was, yesterday, described by a senator as a terror to them.

Warning on soft drinks

A Lagos court the other day ordered the National Agency for Food and Drugs Administration and Control (NAFDAC) to compel the Nigerian Bottling Company (NBC) Plc, to carry a mandatory warning on its Fanta and Sprite brands, stating that the contents should not be taken with Vitamin C in order to avoid poisoning. Also, the court berated NAFDAC for poor regulation of the brands and awarded a N2 million cost, declaring that the agency failed Nigerians by certifying Fanta and Sprite fit for human consumption even when they were later tested and declared unfit for human consumption in the United Kingdom (UK).

The suit was filed by a company that tried to export Fanta and Sprite bottled in Nigeria to the UK. British authorities seized and destroyed the products for being poisonous by containing excess levels of benzoic acid and sunset additives. Benzoic acid, which serves as a preservative, if used excessively, can cause cancer and has also been linked to asthma problems and increased levels of hyperactivity in children. It can cause allergies, hyperactivity, abdominal pain, nausea, and vomiting in some individuals. Anyway, the questions at this juncture are: should the contents of Fanta and Sprite not be the same worldwide? What scientific explanations does NBC have for variations reported in the contents of the products in Nigeria? Is the issue of what is good for the temperate and tropical regions not too opaque and deserves better explanation?
NAFDAC has filed an appeal and a motion to stay execution of the judgment on Sprite and Fanta, while NBC has also said that the judgment was inaccurate as its products are safe for consumption in Nigeria and appealed the court judgment. This case has, however, brought to the fore the issues of consumers right to information and safety in Nigeria!

One thing is obvious –the case has been in the court for about a decade in the slow wheel of justice. Within the period, there was no attempt by the relevant government agencies to recall the batch of the drinks and join the media to sensitise the public on the use of soft drinks and Vitamin C with a view to ensuring the safety of consumers.
Anyway, despite the fact that NBC has argued that its Nigerian brands are safe for consumption, it is better to be cautious. Hence, the need for further investigations against the backdrop of the safety issue raised by the judgment, especially with regard to the effects of excessive level of benzoic acid and sunset additives on human health. Their interactivity with Vitamin C should also be srutinised. The investigation of these ingredients and their levels in the soft drinks product category should be extended to all brands in the country, because machines cannot easily pick carcinogenic disease and daily many Nigerians are dying without knowing the causes.
Furthermore, the various health conditions associated with the ingredients and their prevalence should be studied by experts to establish trends. It is only through such researches that the health concerns of taking soft drinks can be scientifically established while speculations and mistrust
concerning the health hazards will be addressed.

Furthermore, based on the findings of the researches, obligations of marketers to consumers, especially on health warnings will be established, and if possible contents of soft drinks recalibrated.
As a people, Nigerians should all be committed to ensuring that destruction and loss of lives especially through food intake are reduced to the lowest ebb if not totally prevented. As such, relevant ministries, departments and agencies (MDAs) of government such as NAFDAC, Standards Organisation of Nigeria (SON), Consumer Protection Council (CPC) and the Federal Ministry of Health (FMOH), should collaborate in a well-coordinated manner to conduct a broad and detailed examination of all food brands; while the consumer rights groups should hire independent investigators to do the same and make the findings public. This exercise in ensuring the safety of food and drinks should not be for only Fanta and Sprite but various others. Apart from doing this now, the duty bearers should carry out periodic monitoring and review for quality control and assurance; and to reassure consumers of the safety of products in the market. It should be done also to ensure that people get value for their money. Batch examination of food and drinks using stringent measures should be compulsory. If these are done,sub- standard goods will be stamped out of the markets and products consumed will be health compliant. Consumption is life and death. This is a task that must be done if Nigerians are truly committed to rebuilding their country. Where attention to details is missing, the nation will perish.

Source: Guardian

The organizers of  Miss Nigeria 40th Edition have announced their upcoming pageant which will be held on the 19th  of December at the EKO hotel Convention center, Victoria Island, Lagos. 
Red carpet starts 5pm to 7 pm. Event goes live at 7.30pm prompt (no African time)

Otunba segun osoba former governor of Ogun state and past MD/ CEO of the dailytimes nigeria,will chair the grand finale.

The minister of information and culture ,Alh Lai mohammed ,minister of environment and Amina mohammed are the special guests.
 Renowned Designers Frank Oshodi , Lanre da silva , kosibah, Adebayo jones and Eyiola will thrill guests with a RUBY fashion show.

The pageant’s official pet project “The green Girl Project” focused on the impact of environment degradation on the girl child and capacity building in  green project management skills For sustainable environment will be formally launched.

NEPC (Nigerian export promotion council) has also partnered with the  Miss Nigeria organization to train contestants on fashonomics and cloth construction to empower all contestants with valuable skills in keeping with the organizations mission of empowering women beyond beauty.

The current Miss Nigeria, Queen Leesi peter-vigboro  will speak on how her experience as Miss Nigeria gave her the opportunity to give back to the community, as well as  her training  at the Martin Luther King center at the Emory University Georgia Atlanta USA on non violent conflict resolution. This project was sponsored by AIR PEACE and federation for ethnic harmony(FEHN)

The winner of this 40th Miss Nigeria pageant   will Win a brand new Car , 3 million Naira ,opportunities to travel out for workshops  / holidays. and also become the culture and heritage Environment ambassador for Nigeria .

The activities in camp will include 80% empowerment training,fun choreography and etiquette classes .
Other activities planned for the camping duration, are exploring Nigeria’s culture and heritage in Benin , the International beach soccer courtesy of Powerhorse, and Mentorship by a renowed WIMBIZ member. amongst  others.....

Final auditions will hold in Lagos state
Date: 4th and 5th of December 2016
Venue : Eko hotel 
Time :  9am

 Contestants can Register  at the audition venue .
Contestants will be disqualified if pregnant,married , with child, Contestants  must be between 18 – 26.

Quote of the day

So true!!!!

Gov. Fayose pictured distributing groundnut and banana over the weekend

The stomach infrastructure governor pictured  distributing groundnut and banana to Ekiti-ete during an inspection visit in Ekiti state

Beautiful piece of writing

CELEBRATING YOU (by DA-CLARKE Godson)
No doubt most of us have been sated with oft-repeated stories of slaves of eons ago who were freed and their captors drowned; tales of children who were meted inhumane treatment by their so-called families and who later became benefactors to those same families; graphic illustrations of poor souls who rose dramatically from penury to prominence; dullards and dropouts who began to dominate different fields with astonishing breakthroughs. We have been inundated with heroic motivational speeches of some fellows meteoric jump to the top, and we all wish to be like those world-renowned figures of the past or the present. But why?
No, this writer is not against having lofty aspirations and even vaulting ambitions, and day by day we work (or at least think) in the directions of our expectations. We are encouraged to have foresight, insight, hindsight, high-sight, website. We are urged to memorize quotable quotes so as to ponder upon and recite at some imaginary plebiscite that goodness-only-knows about in the future. The number of sights, -sites and cites seems endless, and in the fast-paced world of this 21st century jet age we all wanna emphasize the human factor above the impersonal functioning of computers and robots because we fear for our jobs, even though we ourselves do make use of machines of different sorts because there is so much work to do and so little time to do it. The result: STRESS!
Stress is what happens when we refuse to take a pause. We push ourselves and let others push us too hard, forgetting that no one is indispensable. We feel so insecure about ourselves that we pretend before our colleagues at work, before our friends at play, and even before our families at home. But…hey, one reason you were able to grow up is to be able to celebrate your freedom to chart your own course. Nobody does it any better, and if you do not come to a point where you call the bluffs of the world and say, like the funny quip, Abeg, I cannot come and go and kill myself away, you will be the ultimate loser.
Here, then, is my advice: Take the time out. Visit that fancy place of which youve always dreamed. Buy up that house. Find that work (job or vocation) that gives you rest of mind. Return that ill-gotten money. Hang out with that person who means so much. Throw that party that has hitherto been mere wishful thinking. Join that club. Play that sport. Quit doing anything that keeps you in bondage. If it takes working extra hard in order to leave that prison and reach the palace, then do it. Enjoy yourself; life is too short. A famous quote says, If you dont like where you are, MOVE; you are not a tree (emphasis mine). The rewards far outweigh the cost when you live your life ultimately Celebrating You!

Before and after photos of Afrocandy

It's amazing how people can change so suddenly..Who would believe that this is the same person... #good girl gone bad

Ibeh Pauline Chioma, and her six year old daughter, Nwokedi Rita were on Sunday found wandering on the streets of Owode community in Obafemi-Owode Local Government Area of Ogun state by a traditional ruler, the Olu of Owode Egba, Oba Kolawole Sowemimo.

According to the monarch, he was driving around his domain at about 11pm when he came across the little girl crying while the woman who appeared to be her mother paid her no attention.

On close contact with them, he discovered that the woman looked confused, lacked orientation to time and location and exhibited traits of a mentally unstable person. The Oba said when he interrogated her, ‎the woman claimed to come from St. Anthony Catholic Church, Oji River in Enugu State and that document found in her luggage indicated the item belonged to one Mr Ibeh Lebeogo Augustine. He took her to his palace where she and her daughter are presently staying.

Its another season of Rhythm Unplugged...Don't miss it

It’s another edition of Harp Rhythm Unplugged and have they got a line-up for you!

With Grammy Award winning musician Wyclef Jean and popular Nigerian comedian Bovi hosting, the event will be filled with music, comedy and celeb appearances.

Performing acts include P-Square, Dbanj, 2Face, Wizkid, Flavour, Davido, Banky W, Burna Boy, May D, Iyanya, Olamide, Ice Prince, Dr Sid, Omawumi, Waje, Sean Tizzle, KCee, Tonye, Jared and DJ Jimmy Jatt. Still not sure if you’re going to make the event? Will jokes from Basketmouth, I Go Dye, Gordons, Seyi Law, Buchi and Apororo convince you? Yeah…we thought so.

Tickets Prices
Regular: N7,000
VIP: N30,000
Tickets sold by NaijaTicketShop.com and all NaijaTicketshop outlets in Eko Hotel, Silverbird Cinemas and Ozone Cinemas. For Corporate and Table Bookings please call :08165025419

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Yaaaaa.....Thats me, myself and I......*wink*

SQN boy and gaga crazy crooner, Chuddy k is back

Its Chuddy K and Spellz on the beats again, with another hit single Ima Bom.This hi - life tune with nostalgic lyrics is the right jam for every merry season. This is the second single from the Gaga Crazy and Brazilian Hair crooner under his own record label - Kent Records...enjoy!

Mandela takes a bow

South African Government has announced the death of Nelson Mandela. South African president Jacob Zuma announced that the former president and anti-apartheid revolutionary passed away peacefully in the company of his family in his home in Johannesburg around 8:50 this evening Dec. 5th. He was 95 years old. His death marks the final chapter in a life that changed South Africa forever. What a man! May his soul rest in peace, amen. President Jacob Zuma said flags will be flown at half-mast across South Africa immediately with a state burial to follow. The UK government have also announced that flags will be flown at half-mast in the UK. Rest in peace, Madiba!

2014.........right on the corner.....

Events This Weekend

We finally made it! It’s a brand New Year. This surely would do for your weekend after a week-long strike.*Enjoy*

Reel Life Club presents “The Lives of Others”
To kick off its first viewing for the year 2012, Reel Life Club at the Life House presents the critically acclaimed 2006 German Drama set in East Berlin of 1984 – “The Lives of Others’. The movie which was nominated for numerous awards – The Academy awards, Deutscher Filmpreis award and the Golden Globe awards was written and directed by FlorianHenckel von Donnersmarck and centers around an agent of the secret police, who while conducting surveillance on a writer and his lover, finds himself gradually but increasingly being sucked into their lives. Admission is free for all!
Date: Thursday 5th January 2012
Time: 7:30 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Neks2u.com presents Bloggers Get Blushed!Online magazine – Neks2u.com will be holding an event this Thursday tagged “Bloggers get blushed!”. Admission is free for all but you must RSVP by Calling 07060685590 and sending an E-mail to info@neks2u.com
Date: Thursday 5th January 2012
Time: 4 PM – 8 PM
Venue: 1388 Tiamiyu Savage Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Game Night at The Life House with Aderonke
The Life House’s Chief Gaming Officer – Aderonke is set to make this Friday a fun one for everyone as the long awaited fun loving and mingling event – Game Night which promises to be fun from start to finish will finally take place. Be sure to bring friends and family. Admission is free for all!
Date: Friday 6th January 2012
Time: 6 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Nite Life Radio Show On Star FM with YQ
Be sure to tune on to Star FM this Friday for yet another thrilling Nite Life Radio Show. This week’s show will be hosted by Yolar and the celebrity host is music act YQ. It promises to be fun all through and will feature a countdown of the top 7 club hits. DJ Debby will also be in the house to play all the songs you will like to hear. Log on to www.nitelife-ent.blogspot.com for more info.
Date: Friday 6th January 2012
Time: 9:30 PM
Radio Station: Star FM 101.5

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Lose the Holiday Weight and Get In Shape
Most of us surely over-indulged ourselves with too many goodies during the holidays and now it’s time to get back on track physically. This Saturday at the Life House you’ll get the very best of world class of fitness training to keep you fit and get right back in shape. And to celebrate the birth of a new year, Life House is offering attendees a 10% discount off Abule Cafe juices and smoothies
Date: Saturday 7th January 2012
Time: Yoga for Beginners 9 AM | Intermediate Yoga 10 AM | Pilates 12 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Nmo Management Ltd presents Loud “N” Proud Live Series
This Saturday at Ember Creek, Nmo Management Limited presents Loud N Proud Live Series. A show that will see performances by some of Nigeria’s leading female artistes – Nneka, Tiwa Savage, Omawumi, Waliyah and Ine. The show will be hosted by Toolz and DJ Caise will be present at the after party.
Date: Saturday 7th January 2012
Time: Red Carpet Starts 7 PM
Venue: Ember Creek, Awolowo Road (Between the Lagos Motor Boat Club & DHL), Ikoyi, Lagos
Ticket Price: Special VIP Package (Table of 5) N 25,000 – Champagne, Smirnoff and Cintron Mix | Elite VIP Package (Table of 5) N 50,000 - Moet, Smirnoff, Cintron Mix and Ember Creek Platter of Prawns, Snails, Asun, Spring Rolls, Saute Gizzard and Pizza.
Ticket Locations: Click the Flier Above | At the Venue
Contact: For more info and general enquiries Call 08037321978 | 08037218719 | E-mail ngoziomambala@gmail.com

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Sunday Live Music Special
Relax and mingle this Sunday at the Life House as you enjoy live music from the Life House band. Admission is free for all but donations are welcomed to help support the band.
Date: Sunday 8th January 2012
Time: 7 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Visiting The Bereaved 101

                                                                                         People die everyday, and irrespective of how much we know this and we tell ourselves over and over nothing prepares us enough for the shock of losing a loved one. The immense loss you feel is indescribable, it gives you a sucker punch that leaves you reeling. Not even knowing that death is inevitable prepares you for the intensity of the wave of emotion that would flood through you but you have to deal with it… That and the visitors or people who have come to commiserate with you.

“It is well”

“God knows best”

“Please don’t cry”

“It is the perfect will of God”

“Her work on earth is done”

“We can’t question God”

“The Lord gives and the Lord taketh”

“It is well”

Oh have I said that before? Oh ok… “It is well” is a popular one, but you see when you’re the one with the huge vacuum in your heart, it is really hard to see the “wellness” in the situation.

People want to visit, to do something, to say something but sometimes they make it worse. The church folk (where applicable) who come and sit for hours singing hymns of how we will meet with our loved ones sometime in the after life. They say the most
“theoretical” things in the face of your acute grief… “Let us not cry like unbelievers who have no hope of the afterlife…” “Be strong
for your Mummy oh! If you’re crying like this, what do you want her to do?” They forget that you have feelings of your own, they forget that you are human and sometimes it is just hard to push your own feelings on to the back burner because it is “right” to do.

Then we have the “friends” who want to know how the death occurred? So you find yourself telling the story over and over. You find that your visitors take you back to that unhappy place every time. So you’re telling of the car accident, of the protracted battle with cancer, of the sudden illness, of the rioters who had little regard for human life. You find yourself constantly telling the tale without rest.

Then you have the extended family members who have come to commiserate with you but are just depleting your resources. They sit in the living room from morning to night, a permanent weepy look on their face with constant intermissions to look for meals.

There is also the group of visitors who have just come to see how you’re handling your grief for reporting purposes.

“Ah, and when I got there he was dressed nicely, sitting in the living room and watching TV sef!”

“Her hair was neatly packed, she was wearing leggings… You could never tell she just lost her brother”

It would be unfair to leave out the people who believe that aggression and a firm shaking up is what you need. “Do you want to kill yourself? Will crying bring her back? This is not what she would have wanted. So STOP crying!”

Dude!! Who are you to tell me what to feel and to tell me how to feel whatever it is I feel.

I strongly believe that until you’ve been there, until you’ve walked down that road of grief, sorrow and mourning you can never really know what the person is going through and the best thing to do is to just say nothing.

In March 2010, my brother’s generator exploded and his apartment went up in flames. He died five days after the fire.

The visitors didn’t stop coming to the house. It was love, but it was really very exhausting. People were discussing the inadequacies of the failed government and how if NEPA worked my brother would not have died…right there in our livingroom. Some asked over and over if he was pouring fuel into his gen at that time… “No, he wasn’t fueling his gen. No he wasn’t on the phone. The generator sputtered as he was about to turn it off and it exploded” I recited this over and over till I was weary, to people who were here to visit me in my time of sorrow. They were singing “When peace like a river…” “till we meeeet at Jesus’ feeeeeet”continuously. When my parents went up to their room to lay their heads down for a bit, some “really close friends” would go to their room to give them some “words of comfort”… all they really wanted was to sleep.

I understand that it may be a bit uncomfortable when you go and visit someone who has lost a loved one, most times you really don’t know what to say or how to act and you tend to blurt out the wrong thing but I know some things that you can never go wrong with.

• A long warm hug never hurt anyone. No words no placatory words, nothing but a long warm hug.
• A listening ear; not an interviewer, a listener.
• Someone who would just listen to how you feel and allow you to be yourself and express how you feel.
• Someone who will ensure you sleep when your body is weak, who will insist you eat and try to remain as healthy as possible, given the circumstances.
• Someone who will do the running around for the planning of the burial
• Someone who will tell the visitors when to leave.
• Someone who understands what you are going through

So when next you have to visit someone who has just lost someone who is really close to him/her, please try to remember that it is already difficult losing a loved one, don’t make it worse. Don’t go mumbling insensitive things like “o ga oh! And I just saw her yesterday looking strong and healthy. This life is too short heoww!” ” Kai, if only she hadn’t gone to Bauchi and redeployed to Lagos instead. Just sit quietly, sign the condolence register (if any) and leave.

             Only God can help us to save alive.......