Events This Weekend

We finally made it! It’s a brand New Year. This surely would do for your weekend after a week-long strike.*Enjoy*

Reel Life Club presents “The Lives of Others”
To kick off its first viewing for the year 2012, Reel Life Club at the Life House presents the critically acclaimed 2006 German Drama set in East Berlin of 1984 – “The Lives of Others’. The movie which was nominated for numerous awards – The Academy awards, Deutscher Filmpreis award and the Golden Globe awards was written and directed by FlorianHenckel von Donnersmarck and centers around an agent of the secret police, who while conducting surveillance on a writer and his lover, finds himself gradually but increasingly being sucked into their lives. Admission is free for all!
Date: Thursday 5th January 2012
Time: 7:30 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Neks2u.com presents Bloggers Get Blushed!Online magazine – Neks2u.com will be holding an event this Thursday tagged “Bloggers get blushed!”. Admission is free for all but you must RSVP by Calling 07060685590 and sending an E-mail to info@neks2u.com
Date: Thursday 5th January 2012
Time: 4 PM – 8 PM
Venue: 1388 Tiamiyu Savage Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Game Night at The Life House with Aderonke
The Life House’s Chief Gaming Officer – Aderonke is set to make this Friday a fun one for everyone as the long awaited fun loving and mingling event – Game Night which promises to be fun from start to finish will finally take place. Be sure to bring friends and family. Admission is free for all!
Date: Friday 6th January 2012
Time: 6 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Nite Life Radio Show On Star FM with YQ
Be sure to tune on to Star FM this Friday for yet another thrilling Nite Life Radio Show. This week’s show will be hosted by Yolar and the celebrity host is music act YQ. It promises to be fun all through and will feature a countdown of the top 7 club hits. DJ Debby will also be in the house to play all the songs you will like to hear. Log on to www.nitelife-ent.blogspot.com for more info.
Date: Friday 6th January 2012
Time: 9:30 PM
Radio Station: Star FM 101.5

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Lose the Holiday Weight and Get In Shape
Most of us surely over-indulged ourselves with too many goodies during the holidays and now it’s time to get back on track physically. This Saturday at the Life House you’ll get the very best of world class of fitness training to keep you fit and get right back in shape. And to celebrate the birth of a new year, Life House is offering attendees a 10% discount off Abule Cafe juices and smoothies
Date: Saturday 7th January 2012
Time: Yoga for Beginners 9 AM | Intermediate Yoga 10 AM | Pilates 12 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Nmo Management Ltd presents Loud “N” Proud Live Series
This Saturday at Ember Creek, Nmo Management Limited presents Loud N Proud Live Series. A show that will see performances by some of Nigeria’s leading female artistes – Nneka, Tiwa Savage, Omawumi, Waliyah and Ine. The show will be hosted by Toolz and DJ Caise will be present at the after party.
Date: Saturday 7th January 2012
Time: Red Carpet Starts 7 PM
Venue: Ember Creek, Awolowo Road (Between the Lagos Motor Boat Club & DHL), Ikoyi, Lagos
Ticket Price: Special VIP Package (Table of 5) N 25,000 – Champagne, Smirnoff and Cintron Mix | Elite VIP Package (Table of 5) N 50,000 - Moet, Smirnoff, Cintron Mix and Ember Creek Platter of Prawns, Snails, Asun, Spring Rolls, Saute Gizzard and Pizza.
Ticket Locations: Click the Flier Above | At the Venue
Contact: For more info and general enquiries Call 08037321978 | 08037218719 | E-mail ngoziomambala@gmail.com

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Sunday Live Music Special
Relax and mingle this Sunday at the Life House as you enjoy live music from the Life House band. Admission is free for all but donations are welcomed to help support the band.
Date: Sunday 8th January 2012
Time: 7 PM
Venue: The Life House, 33 Sinari Daranijo Street off Ligali Ayorinde Street, Victoria Island, Lagos
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Visiting The Bereaved 101

                                                                                         People die everyday, and irrespective of how much we know this and we tell ourselves over and over nothing prepares us enough for the shock of losing a loved one. The immense loss you feel is indescribable, it gives you a sucker punch that leaves you reeling. Not even knowing that death is inevitable prepares you for the intensity of the wave of emotion that would flood through you but you have to deal with it… That and the visitors or people who have come to commiserate with you.

“It is well”

“God knows best”

“Please don’t cry”

“It is the perfect will of God”

“Her work on earth is done”

“We can’t question God”

“The Lord gives and the Lord taketh”

“It is well”

Oh have I said that before? Oh ok… “It is well” is a popular one, but you see when you’re the one with the huge vacuum in your heart, it is really hard to see the “wellness” in the situation.

People want to visit, to do something, to say something but sometimes they make it worse. The church folk (where applicable) who come and sit for hours singing hymns of how we will meet with our loved ones sometime in the after life. They say the most
“theoretical” things in the face of your acute grief… “Let us not cry like unbelievers who have no hope of the afterlife…” “Be strong
for your Mummy oh! If you’re crying like this, what do you want her to do?” They forget that you have feelings of your own, they forget that you are human and sometimes it is just hard to push your own feelings on to the back burner because it is “right” to do.

Then we have the “friends” who want to know how the death occurred? So you find yourself telling the story over and over. You find that your visitors take you back to that unhappy place every time. So you’re telling of the car accident, of the protracted battle with cancer, of the sudden illness, of the rioters who had little regard for human life. You find yourself constantly telling the tale without rest.

Then you have the extended family members who have come to commiserate with you but are just depleting your resources. They sit in the living room from morning to night, a permanent weepy look on their face with constant intermissions to look for meals.

There is also the group of visitors who have just come to see how you’re handling your grief for reporting purposes.

“Ah, and when I got there he was dressed nicely, sitting in the living room and watching TV sef!”

“Her hair was neatly packed, she was wearing leggings… You could never tell she just lost her brother”

It would be unfair to leave out the people who believe that aggression and a firm shaking up is what you need. “Do you want to kill yourself? Will crying bring her back? This is not what she would have wanted. So STOP crying!”

Dude!! Who are you to tell me what to feel and to tell me how to feel whatever it is I feel.

I strongly believe that until you’ve been there, until you’ve walked down that road of grief, sorrow and mourning you can never really know what the person is going through and the best thing to do is to just say nothing.

In March 2010, my brother’s generator exploded and his apartment went up in flames. He died five days after the fire.

The visitors didn’t stop coming to the house. It was love, but it was really very exhausting. People were discussing the inadequacies of the failed government and how if NEPA worked my brother would not have died…right there in our livingroom. Some asked over and over if he was pouring fuel into his gen at that time… “No, he wasn’t fueling his gen. No he wasn’t on the phone. The generator sputtered as he was about to turn it off and it exploded” I recited this over and over till I was weary, to people who were here to visit me in my time of sorrow. They were singing “When peace like a river…” “till we meeeet at Jesus’ feeeeeet”continuously. When my parents went up to their room to lay their heads down for a bit, some “really close friends” would go to their room to give them some “words of comfort”… all they really wanted was to sleep.

I understand that it may be a bit uncomfortable when you go and visit someone who has lost a loved one, most times you really don’t know what to say or how to act and you tend to blurt out the wrong thing but I know some things that you can never go wrong with.

• A long warm hug never hurt anyone. No words no placatory words, nothing but a long warm hug.
• A listening ear; not an interviewer, a listener.
• Someone who would just listen to how you feel and allow you to be yourself and express how you feel.
• Someone who will ensure you sleep when your body is weak, who will insist you eat and try to remain as healthy as possible, given the circumstances.
• Someone who will do the running around for the planning of the burial
• Someone who will tell the visitors when to leave.
• Someone who understands what you are going through

So when next you have to visit someone who has just lost someone who is really close to him/her, please try to remember that it is already difficult losing a loved one, don’t make it worse. Don’t go mumbling insensitive things like “o ga oh! And I just saw her yesterday looking strong and healthy. This life is too short heoww!” ” Kai, if only she hadn’t gone to Bauchi and redeployed to Lagos instead. Just sit quietly, sign the condolence register (if any) and leave.

             Only God can help us to save alive.......

Video of Dami Duro by Davido

Watch this nice video...I can bet 2012 is Davido's year

200 Pastors resign from Bishop Oyedepo's church

Saturday, January 14, 2012

 

200 pastors secretly resigned enmasse from Winners Chapel in late December 2011 following a disagreement they had with the General Overseer, Bishop Oyedepo, over the re-organisation of the church.

After a general meeting in December, some pastors said they were no longer comfortable with the founder's leadership style and some new rules he implemented. Bishop Oyedepo was said to have told the pastors that anyone who wanted to leave the ministry was free to do so without any drama. A few weeks later, 200 pastors tendered their resignation letter.

Some pastors resigned to join other ministries, others to start their own churches. Bishop Oyedepo was said to have given all of them a parting gift...from N2 million to N500, 000 each, depending on how long they had served in the church. The resignations is supposed to be hush hush, so don't say you read it here, biko! :-)

Photo of the day

This is so hilarious.. The man with high soundind words dressed in such a funny manner..

NLC's Weekend Break

NLC Declares Weekend Break For Strikes, Rallies And Protests

Press release from the NLC/TUC below...

The Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC), Trade Union Congress (TUC) and Joint Action Front (JAF) commend the Nigerian people for turning out in their millions since Monday January 9, 2012, to protest the astronomical increase in the price of PMS (Petrol). We commend them for their resolute stand and insistence in struggling for a better country.

The Labour Movement and its civil society allies after nationwide consultations has decided that this weekend, Saturday 14th and Sunday 15th January, 2012, will be observed as strike, protest and rally-free days.

We ask Nigerians to utilize these days to rest, restock and get re-energized for the continuation of the strikes, rallies and protests from Monday 16th January, 2012.

Discussions with Government
The NLC, TUC and their allies in the Civil Society Movement on Thursday 12th January 2012 met with the Senate leadership, Nigeria Governors Forum and the Executive Arm.

At the meeting, Labour asked the Presidency to suspend the new petrol (PMS) price increases announced on January 1, 2012. In return, we offered to suspend forthwith, the strikes, mass rallies and street protests. We also suggested that an expanded committee be set up which would discuss the fuel subsidy issue and pricing for petrol.

The Government side presented a counter proposal asking Labour to negotiate new fuel prices. Since we had no such mandate, Labour declined and decided to return to its National Executive Council meetings, which will be held on Saturday 14th January 2012 for a possible expanded mandate.

Labour commends the National Assembly for its intervention and further urges the Presidency to be more reconciliatory towards the people and show more understanding and sensitivity to their feelings and collective interests.

Owei Lakemfa/John Kolawole
NLC Acting General Secretary/TUC Secretary General

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